Min has spent her short life living with a string of different foster families. With mere weeks left until Christmas, Min's current foster mother, Enid, drags her to the Children's Aide office demanding that they take her back. Overhearing Enid's indiscreet demands, Min's doctor, Jessica Hart, takes Min home with her. Min's luck changes instantly. One minute she's about to be abandoned for the holidays, and the next she is being welcomed into the home of the nicest person she has ever met. While living with Doctor Hart, Min takes on her own charity case-a stray dog she finds nearly frozen to death in a local barn. Unsure if the dog will survive, Min's Christmas takes a nerve-racking and potentially devastating turn.
The Importance of Being Yourself From the Beginning of a Relationship ( heading)
The title says it all - or maybe not. We all know that nobody likes a phony. And most of us try to be genuine. But at the beginning of a relationship it is easy to let that go by the wayside and try to hard to impress your paramour.
Obviously, we are not talking about a situation comedy plot. Nobody is really going to tell their prospective lover that they are a spy, or captain of industry. These kinds of lies are too easily revealed, and are unbelievable anyway. I am talking about the little white lies that we all tell, thinking that they don't matter very much.
The sad fact is that they do - a lot. Let's take a hypothetical couple, Jan and Jack. Jack loves to watch the races on Sunday, and hates the opera. Jan feels exactly the opposite way.
At the beginning of their time together, it doesn't matter very much. They are so smitten, that they will happily do pretty much anything as long as they can do it together. This is what makes this kind of behavior so very damaging to a long-term relationship. As Jack and Jan spend more and more time together and they will each began to realize that their partner is not the person that they were led to believe they were. Pain and hurt feelings will be inevitable if this point.
Hopefully you can see that in this, as in most things in life, the old Chinese proverb holds true: The easy way is the hard way; The hard way is the easy way. Jack and Jan would've been a lot happier if they had simply been honest at the outset of their relationship. Then each could have decided if they wanted to be with the other based on that person's true personality, interests and character.
There is another reason to be scrupulously honest at the beginning of a relationship is well and. Eventually, your new lover will meet your friends and family, who know you all too well that. And a quick way to check yourself and see if you're engaging in this self destructive behavior is to ask yourself if you would have any problem with any two people in your life comparing notes. If the answer is yes to you may want to take a look at your behavior and change it before it's too late.
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